Don’t Be a Leaky Dorey

I began a new chapter on May 16th and I took some time to reflect on my life and lessons learned along the way and also to listen to what God was saying. He has brought me this far and I am not about to continue this journey without Him.

There’s a quote that circulates often on social media that say, “Don’t cross oceans for people who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you.”  I’ve always had an issue with it because I feel like it’s not that simple. At least not for me. That’s not how I want to live. I don’t want to only help only those who will be able to help me back. Yet many times I wished I thought differently because it’s such a hard place to be.

Now, I’m not saying that you should become someone’s floor klaat, wisdom is needed of course and there must be a balance. But how often do we stop to think about why it is this way. Some people are in such a bad place they couldn’t even cross a puddle for themselves much less cross for someone else. Others don’t know how to, and maybe some don’t care to. Whatever the case may be, how we choose to live now, will dictate the harvest in the future.

It is said that ships don’t sink because of the water around them but because of the water that gets in them. Sometimes I felt like I was Missa Martin leaky old dorey, that needed to be keeled and bailed. I was leaking everywhere. 

My husband would encourage me during times of disappointment and discouragement. He would tell me, “Babe, don’t let others change who you are. Love anyway. Do good anyway.”

Although it’s not what I wanted to hear, it’s what I needed to be reminded of. 

Don’t be a leaky dorey…

When water gets in, it slows us down, makes the task at hand harder and we eventually start to sink. The disappointments will come, we will feel let down, we will feel discouraged, we will be hurt, we will have to walk away from some relationships., we will experience heartbreaking loss. What we do in those moments will determine whether we will live and love generously.

Living and loving generously is not easy. It’s messy. It’s easy to allow the opinions, actions, approval, or rejection of others to dictate how we live, how we give, how we love.

So I felt as if the Lord posed the question to me, “So will you? Love anyway? Do good anyway?” I know I can’t keep bailing this ole dorey so I choose to love anyway, do good anyway.

I will:

Check in on others, even if they don’t.

Keep lending a helping hand.

Write even if 2 people read it.





I will live and love generously.

What about you? How will you choose to live?

Shayr wid yo frens

12 thoughts on “Don’t Be a Leaky Dorey”

  1. It is easy for me to love or give to another person even if someone has hurt me. Much more difficult to love or give again to the same person who hurt me. Actually, it might not be wise.

    1. I think that’s where the healthy boundaries come in. We have to walk away from those who constantly hurt us but don’t let it change who we are. Thanks for sharing Carolyn.

  2. This reminds me of Judas. He was at the table with the savior. He heard the same message as the other disciples but missed everything. Jesus still had him at the table.
    It’s hard being like Jesus in circumstances where the betrayer is at the table. In situation like that, one of two things I do.
    1. Ask God, “what are you teaching me in this situation?”
    2. Walk away from the table to tell God, “I can’t do this anymore”
    In both scenario God’s grace has reached out to me.

  3. I choose to love and help anyway. I realize it is easy to get to a place where you “wash yuh hand off people” but, in those moments I keep praying for God to let me love like He does….that agape love that does not keep a record of wrong. Not always easy but possible with God. I have also learnt sometimes we have to love people from a distance…

  4. Interesting topic for today. I can soooo relate! Like you, I am a fireball, always bubbling over with excitement and running over with positivity and love. I had a situation this week that left me feeling vulnerable emotionally. My husband reminded me to walk away with the things that made sense and leave the rest behind. God whispered to me, pray for the person now that you have seen their weakness but continue to be you.

    1. Thank God for the voice of wisdom in our husbands Kim. Sometimes we will have to do just that, take what makes sense, and leave the rest behind. May His Spirit continue to lead us.

  5. It is the sad truth, but without Jesus in our lives we will be unable to do these things. Only Jesus Christ himself can help us if we allow him to intervene and be apart of the battle.

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