Kine wuhds neva bruk jawbone. Kind words never broke anyone’s jawbone.Kriol Proverb
When we were growing up, we had a little black and white TV that was powered by an old car battery. We thought it was the coolest thing ever. As I read this proverb, it made me think of all the black and white western movies with cowboys that we used to watch. A man could easily get a solid punch to the jaw for insulting someone. There was always an exchange of words before a fight would break out. One had to be careful with the words he used back then or get ready to duck!
What about you? Have you ever said something that came out really harsh?
Have you ever caused someone to be mad or hurt because of something that you said?
It happens right? As hard as it may be to admit, we’ve all had our fair share of uttering things we wished we could take back.
Our words are so powerful and can either uplift or bring down. I think it’s even more important to think about the words we’re using and how we are using them, especially in these times when most of our communication is done using some form of technology. A careless text to a friend or loved one can easily be misinterpreted, responding to situations while you’re angry can all lead to major problems.
The ease of technology has caused a lot of people to become keyboard warriors on social media, they use their words as a weapon, to demean, insult, bully, and wound others with their words. They are behind their screens, unable to see the devastation they’ve caused on the other end.
Do you remember the saying, “sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me”? I simply can’t agree with it. I’ve heard people who would make comments like “you’re too thin-skinned”, or “you can’t take a joke” after using their words to inflict harm. Words do hurt and they have a way of lingering for way too long. Once it leaves our mouths or our fingers, we can’t take it back.
Let’s look at what the Bible says about words:
Reckless words that hurt:
- Pierce like a sword (Pro. 12:18-19)
- Crushes the spirit(Pro. 15:4)
- Stirs up anger (Pro. 15:1-2)
- Brings strife (Pro. 18:6)
- Sharpened razor (Ps. 52:9)
Words that don’t hurt:
- Tree of life (Pro. 15:4)
- Healing (Pro 12:18)
- Turns away wrath (Pro 15:1-2)
- Full of grace (Col 4:6)
- Build others up (Eph 4:29)
- Brings wisdom (Pro 10:31)
What kind of words do you want to speak?
The words you speak to yourself also matter. How do you speak to yourself?
How can you use your words to build up someone today?